Asking the right questions in the new year: Storytelling for families
When my son was in third grade, I remember waiting in the carpool line for the end of the school day. During this time, I think of questions to ask about his day.
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On this particular day, he jumped in the car very excitedly, as if we were going to his favorite video game store. He told me the life and contributions of his best friend’s grandfather were featured in their history book.
My son was very fascinated by this. I asked him to tell me more about what he had learned about his best friend’s grandfather. He did.
“Mom, do we have ancestors in a history book,” my son asked.
I will never forget the inflection in his voice, the excitement, and the energy, as he anticipated my response.
“No,” I answered. “We don’t today, but someday we will.”
I’ve reminisced about this memory from his childhood many times as he grew up.
Stories are exciting with characters that an audience can identify with as it combines facts with emotions, ideas, values, and norms.
Parents, this year, challenge yourself by using storytelling when talking to your teen.
The right questions can invoke a story.
Parents, by sharing your story, you may reveal your secrets, insecurities, hopes, and dreams to your teen. Your experience may be inspirational.
When our family is together for the holidays or other occasions, our adult children and granddaughter share details when telling stories. This reminds me of my mother – we continue sharing stories about their daily lives or memorable moments.
Certain things happen in our lives that sometimes cause our narrative to be gloomy, unforgiving, harrowing, and repetitive. If that is you, refuse to be that victim in 2023.
These thoughts and habits will affect your relationships and your future. One can only move forward if your stories are revelatory and honest.
When discussing goals and aspirations for the new year, ask your teen:
- What will you do better in 2023?
- What areas will you excel in in 2023 better than anyone else?
- What matters to you?
- What do you wish you could change in yourself and the world?
Then answer the questions yourself.
Once you answer the initial questions, here are a few more prompts to continue the conversation:
- Could you tell me more about …?
- Could you give me an example of …?
- Could you describe this situation in more detail?
These prompts help parents and students understand their stories best and bring them closer together. Remember, not everyone responds well to questioning – storytelling provides a different viewpoint.
This data highlights the importance and benefits of building and nurturing strong connections with your student.
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