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This Millennial Boss's Email Response To Her Employee Who Called Her Out For "Undermining Her" Is So Important It Is Even Bringing Some People To Tears
By Krista Torres,
2023-01-26A woman named Kristen Mahon recently started an insightful discussion after sharing her experience working under a Gen X boss, a Boomer boss, and now a millennial boss:
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In her TikTok , which has 1.7 million views, Kristen shares a recent email exchange she had with her current millennial boss. (She is a Realtor, for reference.) "I wrote an email to her very professionally, very courteously, just stating, 'Hey, while I do appreciate you, commenting those things to the clients' — blah, blah, blah — 'I do feel that you were undermining me and it could damage my relationship with these clients,'" she said, sharing that she was super nervous after sending the email.
"Even though I stand by everything that I said and I stood up for myself, my relationships with bosses have been with these other generations," she added.
@drowningabovewater94 / tiktok.comHowever, Kristen was blown away by her boss's response: "I see your point and I apologize. I apologize for the way I approached that. I did not mean to undermine you in any way. For future emails that I am CC'd on, I won't reply unless I'm addressed to or after. I apologize for the way that I approached that and I have 100% trust in the way you're handling this file. The clients have been great clients for me and I may be a little too attached. I definitely need to learn to let go. I also appreciate your email and I appreciate you writing to address the way you felt right away instead of keeping it inside."
Kristen said she was gobsmacked at the response because it was so different than how she had been treated by any former boss. "This is a boss. This is how you communicate with your employees. This is how you take accountability. Respect for boundaries like this should be the norm. This should be how work communication goes — it is so fun and refreshing. Work for a millennial...Gen Z even better," she said.
People who currently work under millennial bosses began sharing how great their experience has been:
So much so that some admit their millennial boss is the reason they stay at jobs they don't particularly like:
The generational differences between how the bosses manage their employees is one that is hard to ignore:
So much so that older generations themselves even left comments admitting they can be toxic in the workplace:
And millennials who are currently bosses are taking the responsibility of being good bosses seriously:
BuzzFeed spoke to Kristen, who said since leaving her former jobs, her migraines have gone from once a month to once a year. "When I worked under Gen X and Boomers, I always dreaded going to work. It wasn't enjoyable for me, just something I had to do so I could pay my bills. Having bad bosses absolutely affected my job performance — it made me a miserable employee," she said.
"The compulsive need for total control is what sticks out to me the most at my former jobs. My bosses expected me to drop whatever was happening in my life at the drop of a hat so that I could fix their problems for them."
Kristen also said her prior workplace experiences, in terms of working under and communicating with her bosses, were so damaging it deeply impacted her self-worth.
"My millennial boss recently texted me, 'Hey, are you free for a catch-up phone call tomorrow morning?' and I was nauseous all night. The moment I read the text, I started rethinking everything work-related that I had done for the past two weeks and what I could have possibly messed up on. I felt sick all night dreading the phone call and actually had to repeat to myself over and over, 'You did nothing wrong; you did nothing wrong.' And do you know what happened? We had a catch-up email and everything was fine. She literally just wanted to catch up and touch base with each other."
Nattakorn Maneerat / Getty Images/iStockphotoUnder Kristen's new millennial boss, she feels she is a harder worker and a better employee who is not afraid to ask for help and make mistakes she can learn from.
"I personally believe we have the mental health movement to thank for the trend of healthier workplace environments. Generally speaking, millennials are known as the first generation who have put themselves in therapy to better understand themselves and the potential reasons behind their own actions and the actions of those around them. We are holding ourselves accountable for our actions and we are going out of our way to learn how to break the unhealthy generational cycles that we have been born into," she said.
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