How to Tell if Your Date Will Be a Toxic Mate

Living single can be such a vastly different experience for different people. At one end are the people who are distraught to be single and often invest heavily in becoming coupled. At the other end are the "single at heart"—people for whom single life is their best life—their most authentic, meaningful, fulfilling, and psychologically rich life. The single at heart are not settling for being single—they are embracing it. In single life, they flourish.

Prolonged Grief Disorder is a new DSM diagnosis for grief lasting longer than 1 year. It's OK to mourn; grief helps us recognize the preciousness of each moment. Grief affects family members differently, and it's important to respect how others grieve. As a psychotherapist, I’ve often worked with clients who...

The power of social suggestion and groupthink can make you believe that you're ill. Mass hysteria is partially the result of groupthink and social psychology. The more similar you and your friends are, the more susceptible you are to peer influence. Being in a group can squash your independence, creativity,...

There is one simple and powerful journaling technique that you can do for ten minutes a day that will not only improve your daily life but offer you a strong foundation of self-care on which you can build larger life changes: the self-talk journal. This self-talk approach has a simple structure designed to connect your mindsets and make you aware of the different parts that make up who you are.

Burnout is a distinctive occupational phenomenon caused by chronic work-related stress. Chronic exhaustion is a primary symptom of burnout. People also become noticeably more negative and cynical. Burnout can make an individual feel unsatisfied with a job that may actually be a good fit. Does burnout just mean feeling really...

A highly relational person (HRP) is highly tuned in and reactive to relational dynamics and invested in maintaining relational connection. HRPs can find comfort and strength simply knowing that there are others like them. If you’re an HRP, when you hone your relational gift and cultivate relational skills, it can...

Romanticized success can drive unhealthy behaviors that contribute to burnout. Science shows we can shift behavior to protect our well-being through practices such as mindfulness and intermittent technology fasts. Hustle and grind culture is the new religion. Bursting at the seams, to-do lists and schedules are normalized. Messages flood our...

Grief takes as long as it takes; there are no shortcuts. It is a good idea to talk with someone you trust when you are hurting. It helps to accept that whatever you think, feel, or do is part of a new normal, at least for now. Experiencing a loss...

How changes over time in two types of narcissistic traits are related to changes in relationship satisfaction. Increases in narcissistic rivalry, a defensive and antagonistic trait, were related to declines in relationship satisfaction. Here are several ways to interpret these research findings. It is well-documented that narcissists don't make good...

Feelings of excitement will give you the energy necessary to project the slightly bigger-than-life persona you need. The mental exercise required to recall an emotion has the added benefit of making you forget your nerves. Use deep breathing to various forms of meditation to maintain your calm. Is stress bad...

Scientists are on their way to developing the capacity to create “designer babies." The ethics of “special ordering” children have yet to be addressed. Parenting will take on new complexities should we become able to dictate children’s attributes and skill sets. Genetically modified children may experience...

When you marry, you may get a mother-in-law, father-in-law, siblings-in-law, grandparents-in-law and all their family history. The better you know your future in-laws before the wedding, the better off you all will be. Families often have different communication styles; figure out the style of the family you are marrying into...

There’s no timeline for grieving. Losing someone you care about changes a person fundamentally. It's OK to "oscillate" between facing grief head-on and taking a break at times. People often ask me, "Will my grief ever end?" The answer is yes, but it will most likely change you forever,...

Around 42 percent of Americans "actively avoid the news at least some of the time." Research shows that different ways of engaging with the news can be either harmful to our mental health or empowering. By assuming detached engagement, we can strive to be invested in what’s going on in...

It's tempting to separate the brain and the body when thinking about disease. This separation is often artificial and leaves patients feeling misunderstood. Just because we don't understand an illness, doesn't mean it's "all in our head." In a recent commentary in the Lancet, Chloe Saunders and colleagues made a...

Sometimes, people don't want help, but their families do. Family members can learn skills to communicate more effectively with adolescents about issues from suicidal thinking to college applications. We can't control other people's behavior, but we can help them make good decisions by showing curiosity and respect. In my final...

Be willing to accept and adapt when you fumble or misjudge in your choices. Use introspection to your advantage to reflect mindfully from different lenses. Seek to increase your number of alternatives to a reasonable, but not infinite, level and choose action over inaction when you are in doubt. If...

Conflict analysis and management isn't the only approach. It tends to ignore the physical body, leaving many people "stuck." Many cultures use rituals to help conflicted parties get back in sync and embody improved relationships. One way that rituals work is through dissolving the sense of self and applying constructive...

Completing the psychological tasks facing adolescents is greatly complicated by cannabis use. Cannabis provides shortcuts to feeling autonomous, a new identity, and transcendence without requiring psychological growth. Psychological development is delayed and distorted when cannabis becomes the linchpin simulating maturity. Adolescents must be considered a separate subpopulation in any discussion...

Did you know lifestyle changes activate genes to fight cancers? That how you spend your time influences both genetic function and how you function?. In his groundbreaking National Geographic piece, Michael F. Roizin makes an undeniably compelling case for leading a healthy lifestyle. He asserts that 40 percent of premature deaths in the United States are related to lifestyle choices.