Working Through Grief During the Holidays
pcsch88
11-30
I absolutely hate the holidays. Nothing but emptiness. It started & hit hard on Thanksgiving day. No family, no circle of friends, nothing. The expectation is joyful loving family gatherings creating meaningful beautiful memories, big perfect shared meals, joyous gift exchanges, etc. None of that in my life. Wish I could sleep until January 3rd.
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Are you serious?!?
12-02
My son passed on Christmas Eve last year so celebrating Christmas isn't going to happen for a very long time, if ever. I'm glad I only had one child because I know I couldn't pretend that I was all merry and bright.
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