Fury as Mom Gets Daughter Fired After Repeatedly Showing Up at Her Work

The internet has sided with a woman who slammed her mom all over social media for getting her fired from a job that she didn't think was "girly" enough for her.

In a post shared on Reddit earlier this month, under the username u/SubstantialSize1928, the 17-year-old explained that when she finished high school, her dad, who is separated from the mom, helped her get a job at a warehouse, which her mom saw as inappropriate for a girl.

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Since the poster began working there, her mom would constantly call her at work, and even show up there, and her boss never liked her interruptions, but even though her daughter repeatedly asked her to leave her alone while at work, she didn't stop her behavior.

One day she "blew off" on her, telling her to leave her alone, so her mom took to Facebook and made a public post shaming her daughter for being an "ingrate" and not wanting to see her, worded in a way that made her family and friends take her side.

Not happy, she showed up at her daughter's workplace again, but this time her boss had enough of the antics and fired her.

She said: "My dad says he will help me get another job but I am pissed. So I went on Facebook and found every person who had called me mean and that said she wasn't hurting me. I spelled out why I got fired and I asked them to help me out with some money since her actions had cost me my job.

"Now all of a sudden they are turning on her calling her overbearing and saying they didn't realize she was jeopardizing my employment."

The mom is now telling her to stop telling people she got her fired because it's embarrassing, as well as to stop asking her friends and family for money.

Marni Goldman, a spiritual life coach and author of True To Myself: Peace, Love, Marni, told Newsweek that a mother-daughter relationship is one of the most beautiful cherished bonds you can have, but unfortunately, some people are not that lucky.

She said: "How are we supposed to have self-love and boundaries when our own mothers do not show us what unconditional love is? It's not a question of the daughter going too far on social media, what she did was just stoop to her mother's immature level.

"Most mothers don't go on social media to insult their children, she embarrassed herself. This isn't a group project either. There's nothing to prove to anyone. The people closest to you know what an amazing person you are. To be quite honest, your mother looks ridiculous posting about her daughter on social media anyway."

'Take Control'

She added, that having a mother with these narcissistic traits can be damaging to our self-worth, however, we can't change who they are, but we can heal and do everything to protect our peace from now on.

"It is the worst, most invalidating feeling when somebody says 'it's still your mother,' yes, and toxic is still toxic no matter who it is.

"Growing up with a toxic narcissistic mother it's all about them and how they look. My mother became addicted to crack when I was 17 and left me homeless. When I shared my story all she could think about was how it made her look, not how it affected me. When I say I speak your language, I speak your language. It's time for you to take control of the steering wheel. The putting up boundary wheel.

"I am so sorry to say this, but taking a break from your mother is probably the healthiest thing you can do for yourself, and your mental health. You need to block, unfollow, and have zero contact with her. If somebody wants to talk to you about her, you don't have to. It took me 52 years to learn this, but the peace it gives you, and the emotional weight taken off your shoulders is life-changing."

The post, first shared on the r/AmItheA****** subreddit, where users discuss their actions with strangers, has gone viral, receiving over 10,100 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

One user, EloiseEvans, commented: "[Not The A******], she got you fired you told people the truth of what happened. I wouldn't tell her where you work next time. Also I would warn your future boss. If she keeps doing it (Note: this is extreme) document and report."

Another user, MaybeIwasanasshole, wrote: "This reeks of mom intentionally sabotaging op in order to force her to get a job mom thinks it's suitable for 'a girl'. She will for sure continue."

And ChiisaiHobbit added: "[Not The A******] She was the first one taking things into the public court of [Facebook] posting. You have all the right to continue to follow her lead and put your side of the story there."

Newsweek reached out to u/SubstantialSize1928 for comment. We couldn't verify the details of the case.