The internet has slammed a father for wanting to charge his son to use the family cabin for his honeymoon.
Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA****** forum, a man under the anonymous username u/honeya34____ shared his story for the "AITA" community to determine if he was in the wrong.
The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that he and his wife purchased a winter cabin before she passed away. He is now the only owner.
He wrote that his son is soon to be married to his fiancee and for their honeymoon, he wanted to stay at the family cabin since they can't afford a destination trip. The OP allowed him to do so but in exchange for a fee.
He wrote, "He acted all shocked and tried to argue that it's his mom's cabin too but I pointed out how I'm the owner now and that I pay to keep it maintained. He got upset and accused me of being materialistic and selfish after I'd already been unhelpful with the wedding."
"I told him I did the same thing with his aunt and it wasn't personal. He left with his fiancee and told the family about it. Now I'm being [berated] left and right and am being told to let him use the cabin and shamed for asking for money," he concluded.
The OP told his son that he was getting married too soon and it wasn't a good idea, but he didn't listen to him.
Newsweek has reached out to u/honeya34____ for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.
Advice from a finance expert
While the internet has slammed the father, a finance lawyer discusses why the OP could be in the right.
Leslie Tayne, founder of Tayne Law Group, explained to Newsweek that the OP isn't necessarily wrong in this instance for charging his son for the cabin, "It's a respectful and responsible thing to do, regardless of his relationship with [him]. If money is tight, [his] son could postpone going on a honeymoon until he can afford to do so. Lots of people end up going that route.
"A honeymoon is (hopefully) a one-time deal, so [the OP doesn't] have to worry about providing ongoing financial support. Perhaps [he] could offer [his son] a dramatically reduced rate or consider granting access to the cabin as a wedding present," Tayne told Newsweek.
Newsweek has published several articles on finance tips, including how to manage your income, four things you can do to save money at home this winter and the safest payment apps.
Redditor reactions
"[You're the a******] for not supporting your son's wedding also. Just say goodbye to him, he's going to quit talking to you very soon," u/Geek_Egg wrote, receiving the top comment of over 37,000 upvotes.
U/Straight-Singer-2912 questioned, "[You're the a******] It's your son! For his honeymoon! You're going to CHARGE YOUR SON?"
"[You're the a******] Ask yourself what's more important, money? Or your son," u/kats1945 commented.
"[You're the a******] Jesus. I can't imagine being this stingy with my own kid. Hey OP, some people love their kids and enjoy doing nice things for them, especially around weddings and such. Just FYI," u/Eastern_Fox5735 exclaimed.
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