Wife puts lock on home office; gets told she's 'prioritizing work over family.' AITA?
'AITA for how I reacted when I found out that my husband uninstalled my office lock?'
Ever since I started working from home my husband has started treating it as if I'm not 'really' working. He believes wfh isn't as much of a real job as leaving the house and driving to your workplace.
He'd interrupt me at all times, send the kids in so I could help them get things done, he even goes in randomly and ask me to do things under the guise of 'just a minute, you won't get fired over a minute break.' I have grown tired of the constant barging so what I did was purchase a lock and lock the office to no longer give him access to interrupt me.
He found out and uninstalled it while I was out. He said that it's his house and that I CANNOT lock him out of any room in it. I was floored once I saw that he threw the lock away. I went off at him just screaming my head off telling him that he was jeopardizing my livelihood, and his body language and tone changed.
He started ranting about how I'm being cruel for accusing him of such things and selfish for even entertaining the idea of keeping him and the kids out and ignoring them like that.
He stormed off and left and had his mother lecture me about how I'm being unfair prioritizing work over family and stuff like that. Lastly, she talked about yelling at my husband and trying to intimidate and control him. He's been quiet since then. Aita? For my reaction.
Here's what people had to say in the comments:
DesertSong-LaLa writes:
NTA - Your employment is at risk; so is your marriage.
His actions disrespect you on many levels. Is this common behavior for him; disregard your requests, throw away a tool you installed, rant, claim he can do 'anything' in the house, enlist his mother to rant as well? He stated, 'You won't get fired over a minute break.' ---How does he know this?
This erodes your expertise and opinion on the matter. I am sorry you are going through this but it may be the wake-up call you need. If you both cannot put forth basic courtesy and effective communication then you and the children will lose; lose big time.
joseph_wolfstar writes'
The entitlement to her time and his ability to demand her attention and labor at any moment. The enlisting his mother to help make him the victim of his sh*ttiness.
Stating that he has any and all rights to the house even when it disrupts ops rights and livelihood, but showing active disdain for ops right to anything to do with the house. This is control and abuse tactics
Leading_Vehicle_4325 writes:
NTA. Divorce him!!!!!!!!!!!
Jmm1272 writes:
YTA you said you screamed your head off and that is NEVER acceptable, in fact, it’s abusive. Also you said he’s jeopardizing YOUR livelihood but doesn’t your income contribute to the whole family? Why are you only thinking about yourself?
Jmm1272 writes:
YTA you said you screamed your head off and that is NEVER acceptable, in fact, it’s abusive. Also you said he’s jeopardizing YOUR livelihood but doesn’t your income contribute to the whole family? Why are you only thinking about yourself?