Boyfriend Bashed for Asking Woman to Take Bus to Work So He Can Use Her Car

A boyfriend has been dragged online after he asked his girlfriend to take the bus to work so he could use her car.

Published on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man under the anonymous username u/2isny shared his story to receive opinions from the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 6,000 upvotes and 4,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that during the eight months he's been with his girlfriend, he got into a car accident. Unfortunately, he only got about $2,400 from his insurance company which wasn't enough to get him a new car, and he needed to save money for a few more months.

He asked his girlfriend if he could borrow her car for the time being to get to and from work. She agreed, however, she had some rules. The OP was in charge of driving her back and forth from work, being the designated driver for both date nights and when she goes out with her friends. He explained that it was "too much work."

If he took a bus to work, it would take him about an hour and 45 minutes to get there. On the other hand, it would only take his girlfriend 45 minutes to get to her job by bus.

The OP wrote, "I've asked her to take the bus so I can use the car for a few months while I save up and I'll pay for insurance and gas but she refuses saying it's her car and if I'm not happy with our set up I can take the bus. She's so selfish and not willing to compromise, I've tried to get her to agree to take the bus 2-3 days a week but she won't and just tells me if I don't like it to take ubers.

"An Uber to my work and back from my work costs $110 and I only make around $200 it's not worth it for me to even go to work. I'm pissed and refused to give her the keys saying she can take the bus that day and she grabbed my wallet and used my cc to get herself an Uber without my permission. She screamed at me to give her back the keys but I've hidden it and we are at a standstill," he concluded.

Newsweek reached out to u/2isny for comment.

Newsweek has published several articles regarding conflicts in relationships including a debate that sparked over a woman who didn't want her friend's fiancée to join their vacation, a partner who was bashed over anger towards their "ill" husband for not doing many chores and a woman slammed online for suggesting her partner go no-contact with their young son.

How to deal with selfishness in a relationship

Are you in a similar situation to the OP above? According to marriage.com, here are some tips on how to deal with selfishness in a relationship:

• Take the attention you were giving to your partner and give it to yourself by doing fun self-care activities.
• What things does your partner do that annoy you the most? Figure out what you're willing to deal with and talk with your partner about what needs to change and what is a deal breaker.
• Explain to your partner the advantages of changing their behavior to give them a sense of what they can do better.
• Try taking turns on daily activities, listening and speaking to one another.

Redditor reactions

"[You're the a**hole]. She's the selfish one? You're using her car and expecting her to take the bus. Get a car with a monthly payment plan instead of relying on her to solve your problems," u/FunkyOrangePenguin exclaimed, receiving the top comment of over 21,000 upvotes.

"[You're the a**hole]. Hard stop. If you're getting up at 6am anyway then take the goddamn bus. You're lazy and entitled and demanding that she solve YOUR problem," u/saltycathbk wrote.

U/not_a_bad_egg said, "Yes, [you're the a**hole]. By taking her keys you have effectively stolen her car. 'She's so selfish and not willing to compromise' - Dude it's literally HER car."

U/Stolen_Showman explained, "[You're the a**hole] without a doubt. It's her car, but you've decided to deprive her of access to her own property because you can't afford to replace your own property, which you already broke. Am I having a stroke, or is that actually what you're saying? You then complain because she used your credit card to pay for an uber after you stole her car keys.

"I don't know why you think she deserves to be treated with such contempt, but you're wrong. I hope she reads every reply, which I'm certain will all state clearly that [you're the a**hole], and kicks you to the kerb for her own good. Then you'll have no car and no girlfriend an nobody to blame but yourself," the commenter continued.