A bride-to-be shared in a viral post on the popular Reddit forum "Am I The A**hole" that her fiancé did not want her to be walked down the aisle by her father over a financial disagreement.
In her post, which amassed more than 11,000 votes since it was shared on Monday, u/throwaway569070 said her father and her fiancé have a history of disagreements, but it came to a head when her fiancé said he did not want her father to walk her down the aisle because he did not contribute money to the wedding. That prompted u/throwaway569070 to call her fiancé selfish.
"AITA for calling my fiance selfish for refusing to let my dad walk me down the aisle?" read the title of u/throwaway569070's post.
Walking Down the Aisle
According to Brides, one of the most "memorable" parts of any wedding is the bride walking down the aisle.
"Traditionally, fathers walk daughters down the aisle," the magazine reported. "Once the pair reach the altar, she's then presented to her partner to be wed."
While many brides choose to have their fathers walk them down the aisle, brides can choose to have someone else who is special to them walk them down the aisle.
"How someone chooses to approach it can symbolize her core values at that moment: independence, support, identity, equality—deeply personal feelings that are tied to this life change," the magazine said.
"AITA?"
Redditor u/throwaway569070 said she does not have a big family, though she and her father, who raised her as a single parent, have a strong relationship.
She said her fiancé and her father do not have a strong relationship, and they've had their fair share of disagreements, particularly when it came to how u/throwaway569070's father handled his grief over her mother's death.
She said her fiancé was angry at her father for talking about his struggle following her mother's death, accusing him of trying to get sympathy from others.
"Their recent disagreement was when my dad refused to give my fiancé money to contribute to the wedding," u/throwaway569070 said. "My fiancé complained but I said that my dad isn't obligated to pay for the wedding."
She said her fiancé told her she needed to find someone else to walk her down the aisle, noting that her father should be "grateful" he is still invited to the wedding.
Upset, u/throwaway569070 argued with her fiancé and said she wanted her father to be the one to walk her down the aisle.
"He threw a fit saying that I was trying to ruin his mood and get him upset on our wedding day but I called him selfish for [wanting] to take away the moment I always dreamed of over his disagreements with dad," she said.
Redditors React
Reddit users overwhelmingly sided with u/throwaway569070 and urged her to re-evaluate her relationship with her fiancé.
"Your fiancé is trying to control you," a top comment read. "He sees your father as a threat to his control over you."
"He criticized your dad for how he handled grief," another Redditor wrote. "This does not sound like a man who knows how to love."
"I hope you can understand this will be your life if you proceed," one comment read. "Your fiancé will constantly try to separate you from your support system and most likely your friends too, all while putting you down in lots of little ways."
Newsweek reached out to u/throwaway569070 for comment.
Other Reddit users have taken their personal dilemmas to the "Am I The A**hole" forum.
A mother was supported for giving her son's dog to his ex-wife. Redditors backed a woman who said she refused to share the password to her safe with her sister's partner.
One man sparked a debate after he kicked his mother out of the house for insulting his wife.
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