Internet Rages as Man Dumps His Pregnant Wife for Divorced 'Childhood Love'

A man who left his pregnant wife to "finally" be together with his "first love" has been blasted by users on Reddit.

In a post shared on the online forum, where it had over 9,000 upvotes at the time of writing, his wife (Reddit user Throwaway89114022) said: "His first choice was his childhood love."

She knew she was her husband's "second choice" when they got married and "knew he was still in love with her."

According to the user, "circumstances and other situations" forced her husband and his childhood love apart.

"She was married to someone else when I met him and wasn't available. I was so stupid because I thought it would be fine marrying him because he assured me he was all in. Even though I was his second choice he was my first choice," she said.

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The pair were "happy enough" for a few years but when "his first love got divorced because her husband left," the original poster said "my husband left me for her."

The husband told the user they were "finally" able to be together, which was "hard enough" to handle. But the original poster said she was "a few weeks pregnant" when her husband left.

"He'll pay child support but says will not be in his/her life," the wife said, adding: "I hate myself for bringing a baby into this and for being stupid enough to marry him in the first place."

According to data compiled by the San Diego-based family law firm Wilkinson & Finkbeiner, nearly half of all marriages in the U.S. will end in divorce or separation.

Researchers estimate that around 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce, while 60 percent of second marriages and 73 percent of third marriages end in divorce, the law firm says.

According to a Dutch study of 2,371 people looking at motives for divorce, which was published in July 2019 in the peer-reviewed Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, the most frequently stated motives included the following:

  • Lack of love and intimacy
  • Communication problems
  • Lack of sympathy, respect and trust
  • Growing apart

Several Reddit users showed support for the original poster, highlighting that the husband is the other woman's "second choice."

In a comment that received 10,000 upvotes, user werdzishard said: "He is now her 2nd choice."

User Effective_Win_9122 agreed, stating: "you're dodging the bullet. A man who will abandon his baby before it's born and a woman who will take that man knowing he did that, are not nice people and sound better suited to be sh***y together. Hugs OP [original poster]."

In a comment that got 8,900 upvotes at the time of writing, user Weak_Jeweler3077: "Just remember, when it doesn't work out between them, NEVER take him back."

In a comment that got 3,300 upvotes, user throwaway469847 advised: "Hate him. What a dink. Love yourself. Love your child."

The original poster replied: "Thank you. I will do my best to ensure my child knows love regardless of everything else," in a comment that received 1,500 upvotes.

In a comment that got 878 upvotes, user GranJan2 said: "His childhood love will find someone better, again."

AdlerEule agreed, noting: "If he wasn't good enough for her before, he isn't going to be good enough for her now either...she'll kick him back to the curb and man's gonna come wallowing back to OP."

User Educational-Glass-63 added: "He will be sorry," in a comment that got 2,600 upvotes,

Newsweek reached out to user Throwaway89114022 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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