Love Spells: How to Conjure Love

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After many years of struggling with self-love and esteem, I am finally entering a more confident place in my life. The key? I am releasing unhealthy partnerships and healing the relationship I have with myself. The journey to understanding myself and being in healthy friendships and relationships didn’t happen overnight — it took time and work.

Through it all I learned a lot about myself and what I want from others. This is why I created a deck of manifestation cards broken down into multiple categories, with several cards (70 in total with a mini book) about love: the zodiac signs in love, celestial love, love meditations, love spells, love chakras, crystals for love, love notes, and love affirmations.

“The Love Deck” is a tool to help everyone searching for love, wanting to heal a broken heart, make amends with their past, searching for confidence, thinking about sending the first text to their crush — most importantly, learning to love yourself (the greatest gift of all).

You can use the deck by pulling a card before a first date, if you reach a romantic crossroads, or anytime you're questioning your relationships.

These are some of my favorite parts, prompts, and excerpts of “The Love Deck” that I hope you enjoy. While reading these love spells, remember to always have a clear intention set to manifest the love and joy you desire in your life. Be honest with yourself and the universe to attract what you want.

Love Thyself

Before you can love anyone else, it’s important for you to love yourself. Saying a daily affirmation while gazing yourself in the mirror in the morning will set the tone for how you feel about yourself. You can even meditate for a few minutes or more on all of your amazing attributes. “Love Yourself First” is my personal favorite affirmation, and “Journey Into The Heart” is the meditation I regularly do. Both mantras are in the deck (along with several other affirmations and meditations). They allow us to connect with our heart chakra and to feel presence within our emotions. A lot of the time, we tend to disconnect from what we feel. These practices allow us to acknowledge what is brewing within our hearts and wanting to come out and be discovered.

Come To Me

This is a personal spell that I wrote when I was younger, which I included in “The Love Deck.” The meaning behind “Come To Me” is to call in a partner, crush, or lover to show their affections by texting and calling. FYI: The person you’re attracting with this spell should be someone you already know with whom you share a flirtation with. They’ll start contacting, calling, or texting you and wanting to get your attention, once you set the intention in motion — they definitely won’t leave you on read which is a plus.

Here’s what you need to start:

  • mortar and pestle
  • coffee grounds
  • shredded candle wax
  • cornstarch
  • dried lavender
  • coriander
  • raw sugar
  • pink candle
  • tablespoon
  • your cell phone

Directions:

Take one tablespoon each of: coffee grounds, the shredded candle wax (you can use any color but I prefer pink because we are manifesting love), cornstarch, dried lavender, coriander, and raw sugar. Use a mortar and pestle to blend all of the ingredients together. Send a sweet text to your boo then place your phone in the center of a clean desk/space. Sprinkle the mixture you’ve created around your phone while burning a pink candle. Meditate on your desires, and will them to “come to you” or text back with a lovely message of love that eventually leads to something more. This spell is particularly important because good communication can help a relationship grow. If you want to get to know someone, you can decide whether or not you like them through the conversations you have.

Get Rid Of Your Pesky Ex

I am a big believer that crystals can help block out negative energy from our lives. When dealing with an ex who won’t go away or with whom there are lingering feelings for — even though you know the relationship isn’t good or working — I suggest keeping amethyst crystal close to your heart at all times. Wearing amethyst will ward off the people who try to manipulate you and remind you to love yourself more. Keep this protective crystal near you when debating to call your ex or ignite an old flame. It’ll help you make the right and best decisions in matters of the heart. Plus, it can even bring in someone better and more loving.

Create Your Own Fairytale

There is no one-size-fits-all for what your happily ever after looks like in life. Personally, I never imagined myself running into the sunset on horseback with someone else leading the steed. I always imagined myself being in a partnership of equals in which we both walked hand-in-hand together while sharing laughs. All the more reason for everyone to define their version of what they envision as happiness when in a partnership. Write a journal entry that specifically states your needs, wants, desires, and passions. When you put the energy out into the universe, it becomes real in the sense that you are beginning to bring it to fruition. It will serve as your go-to guide for manifesting the relationship that works best for you on your terms.

“The Love Deck” by Lisa Stardust is available now.

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