Putting your Dog to sleep

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Next week we have taken the terrible decision to have our lovely daft softy in.our beloved staffy sasha put to sleep :'(
She is almost 14 and she has lots wrong among others dementia,.kidney failure & her hearing & eyesight are poor , she can still eat pooh &. Walk and climb.on to the settee after a time ,but she given us love & affection , and some lovely times, with one or two exceptions has lived very healthy life and has been well.lookrd after and fed right food too ,but sadly we don't want to see her suffer in anyway so.we are taking above decision
It will be horrible day we both know that but at least she won't suffer at end
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  • Torch81Torch81 Posts: 15,412
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    That's sad. She looks a lovely dog. Genuinely feel for you. Must have been such a difficult decision to make. But, if she's suffering with regards her current ailments then in my opinion you're making the right decision to have her put into a final sleep. If it was me and she was ours, I'd make the same decision and as hard as it must be, I'd consider it the right one for the dog. I couldn't bear to think our one might be suffering and in pain. By the sound of it, your of the same opinion with yours. Just give her as much love, fuss and attention as you can before the time comes. (Not forgetting to include some of that for Enmie too!).
  • moontidemoontide Posts: 1,929
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    Sorry to hear your very sad news but I think that you are doing the right thing.it is a difficult decision to have to make.When we lost our last dog (a Goldie) a very dear friend sent me a lovely poem which I did find did help,it is called A Dog's Last Battle.you can find it on the web and also there is quite a few threads which I found very helpfulPlease remember that Enmie will also feel the loss so will need lot of love.












  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    It is so hard, I know.

    Can it be something done at home? I've got the loveliest vet, who sits with me for as long as it takes, while I have my furries in my arms...

    I hope you have somewhere special to place your precious. I have a garden filled with golden memories. My favourite: walking up to my post box, with seven little furries following behind, in single file. Always from biggest to tiniest.

    It isn't a loss. It's an act of love, in return for all the love you have received - and the joy of that love never leaves.
  • DamnedunitedarebackDamnedunitedareback Posts: 14,634
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    It is so hard, I know.

    Can it be something done at home? I've got the loveliest vet, who sits with me for as long as it takes, while I have my furries in my arms...

    I hope you have somewhere special to place your precious. I have a garden filled with golden memories. My favourite: walking up to my post box, with seven little furries following behind, in single file. Always from biggest to tiniest.

    It isn't a loss. It's an act of love, in return for all the love you have received - and the joy of that love never leaves.
    We live in 2nd floor flat so the vet would then have to carry her down the stairs psst all.the nosy neighbours none we actually. Like so we want.to keep it as private as possible and besides I couldn't see our lovely Dog lying motionless in our flat , but we.have arranged to take her to dog friendly cafe then my wife will.eqlk her to the vets , I can't face that am afraid (its all arranged ( .I will.then pick her up from.vets then drive home , which even.tho we are on a bike it will be very sad journey home .
    Before all that I.am going to take her on a last walk just me and her which I know will be very Emotional one 😢, I will tell her how much I love her , and some other things I'd like to keep private.
  • lufcfan1998lufcfan1998 Posts: 18,015
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    Sorry to hear this, on the 7th July it will be 1 year since I had my beloved chocolate lab lucas put to sleep. He was 13 and we had him since he was a puppy (we got when I was 10 in April 2008).
  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    I'm sorry to hear that your circumstances can't give you either privacy or place. I know that I'm very lucky to have my furries in my arms, and somewhere special they can lay, with mummies and daddies and brothers and sisters.

    It sounds a cruel, hard day for you. Try not to think of loss, but of all the joy and love. Nothing is being taken away from all you have been given.

    My cat (sixth in the Indian file) is slowly leaving me, and it's so sad; but we lie together with strokes and purrs and tut-tuts and meows, and it's beautiful. She's ageing - and, if ill, untreatable. The sweetest, most gentle and timid of creatures becomes a monster. Even wrapped in a blanket, two of us can't control her. In all her years, she's only ever liked me - other people rarely see her. Prettiest thing, with the most stunning profile; but I'm not an artist, so can't capture it.

    Give your 'baby' a big kiss from me, and wrap my arms around him. They will be wrapped around you on a terrible, horrible day. Think of the love.
  • DamnedunitedarebackDamnedunitedareback Posts: 14,634
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    I'm sorry to hear that your circumstances can't give you either privacy or place. I know that I'm very lucky to have my furries in my arms, and somewhere special they can lay, with mummies and daddies and brothers and sisters.

    It sounds a cruel, hard day for you. Try not to think of loss, but of all the joy and love. Nothing is being taken away from all you have been given.

    My cat (sixth in the Indian file) is slowly leaving me, and it's so sad; but we lie together with strokes and purrs and tut-tuts and meows, and it's beautiful. She's ageing - and, if ill, untreatable. The sweetest, most gentle and timid of creatures becomes a monster. Even wrapped in a blanket, two of us can't control her. In all her years, she's only ever liked me - other people rarely see her. Prettiest thing, with the most stunning profile; but I'm not an artist, so can't capture it.

    Give your 'baby' a big kiss from me, and wrap my arms around him. They will be wrapped around you on a terrible, horrible day. Think of the love.
    we are having our final walk tomorrow come Rain or shine round her favourite part of field which she loves I will then bring her back home say my final.Goodbye to her in the bedroom just me & her where we will have private chat together before she leaves on her final journey in this life :'(
  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    Then I shall be with you - won't listen in in your private chat. Just hug you both.

    There's no goodbye to love.
  • tomvoxxtomvoxx Posts: 2,340
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    I'm sorry to hear that your circumstances can't give you either privacy or place. I know that I'm very lucky to have my furries in my arms, and somewhere special they can lay, with mummies and daddies and brothers and sisters.

    It sounds a cruel, hard day for you. Try not to think of loss, but of all the joy and love. Nothing is being taken away from all you have been given.

    My cat (sixth in the Indian file) is slowly leaving me, and it's so sad; but we lie together with strokes and purrs and tut-tuts and meows, and it's beautiful. She's ageing - and, if ill, untreatable. The sweetest, most gentle and timid of creatures becomes a monster. Even wrapped in a blanket, two of us can't control her. In all her years, she's only ever liked me - other people rarely see her. Prettiest thing, with the most stunning profile; but I'm not an artist, so can't capture it.

    Give your 'baby' a big kiss from me, and wrap my arms around him. They will be wrapped around you on a terrible, horrible day. Think of the love.
    we are having our final walk tomorrow come Rain or shine round her favourite part of field which she loves I will then bring her back home say my final.Goodbye to her in the bedroom just me & her where we will have private chat together before she leaves on her final journey in this life :'(

    Thinking of you today. It is never an easy decision to make but as others have said the memories of his love for you and your wife will stay with you.
  • Ella NutElla Nut Posts: 8,891
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    It is so hard, I know.

    Can it be something done at home? I've got the loveliest vet, who sits with me for as long as it takes, while I have my furries in my arms...

    I hope you have somewhere special to place your precious. I have a garden filled with golden memories. My favourite: walking up to my post box, with seven little furries following behind, in single file. Always from biggest to tiniest.

    It isn't a loss. It's an act of love, in return for all the love you have received - and the joy of that love never leaves.
    We live in 2nd floor flat so the vet would then have to carry her down the stairs psst all.the nosy neighbours none we actually. Like so we want.to keep it as private as possible and besides I couldn't see our lovely Dog lying motionless in our flat , but we.have arranged to take her to dog friendly cafe then my wife will.eqlk her to the vets , I can't face that am afraid (its all arranged ( .I will.then pick her up from.vets then drive home , which even.tho we are on a bike it will be very sad journey home .
    Before all that I.am going to take her on a last walk just me and her which I know will be very Emotional one 😢, I will tell her how much I love her , and some other things I'd like to keep private.

    Oh, lovey. I am thinking of you on this awful day. I'm with you, I couldn't bear to have a beloved furry family member passing away in my home. As for not facing the vet trip, I am going to wholeheartedly support you there (not that you are asking but I'm giving it anyway). Not all of us are able to be present at the final moment and I don't care what anyone says about that. I didn't go in and see my dad when his life support was switched off. Back to fur babies, I had a similar situation with my cherished poodytat 2 years ago, the vet was so kindly to me, I said my goodbyes and let the vet take over. I devoted years to giving her the best life I could possibly give to her, and let her go when the time was right. What has given me comfort is having her ashes, I brought her 'home'. I don't know what your plans are in that respect of course.
  • DamnedunitedarebackDamnedunitedareback Posts: 14,634
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    Ella Nut wrote: »
    It is so hard, I know.

    Can it be something done at home? I've got the loveliest vet, who sits with me for as long as it takes, while I have my furries in my arms...

    I hope you have somewhere special to place your precious. I have a garden filled with golden memories. My favourite: walking up to my post box, with seven little furries following behind, in single file. Always from biggest to tiniest.

    It isn't a loss. It's an act of love, in return for all the love you have received - and the joy of that love never leaves.
    We live in 2nd floor flat so the vet would then have to carry her down the stairs psst all.the nosy neighbours none we actually. Like so we want.to keep it as private as possible and besides I couldn't see our lovely Dog lying motionless in our flat , but we.have arranged to take her to dog friendly cafe then my wife will.eqlk her to the vets , I can't face that am afraid (its all arranged ( .I will.then pick her up from.vets then drive home , which even.tho we are on a bike it will be very sad journey home .
    Before all that I.am going to take her on a last walk just me and her which I know will be very Emotional one 😢, I will tell her how much I love her , and some other things I'd like to keep private.

    Oh, lovey. I am thinking of you on this awful day. I'm with you, I couldn't bear to have a beloved furry family member passing away in my home. As for not facing the vet trip, I am going to wholeheartedly support you there (not that you are asking but I'm giving it anyway). Not all of us are able to be present at the final moment and I don't care what anyone says about that. I didn't go in and see my dad when his life support was switched off. Back to fur babies, I had a similar situation with my cherished poodytat 2 years ago, the vet was so kindly to me, I said my goodbyes and let the vet take over. I devoted years to giving her the best life I could possibly give to her, and let her go when the time was right. What has given me comfort is having her ashes, I brought her 'home'. I don't know what your plans are in that respect of course.
    Pretty much same we paid for a private Cremation so with that we get Ashes back, in a casket too we are putting her collar round them.untill we decide what to do wirh them , tho that won't be for few weeks yet ,although the brochure says 3 working days from Cremation which is dependent on the Pet Crem .
    Thanks for your kind words too means lot to us .
  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    How are you, Damned?

    Silly question: in pain and grieving.

    Anywhere lovely for the ashes?

    Remember the love. Remember the fun times. I remember 'Ears Blow In the Wind' (No. 2 in the file), and how No. 1 sat and stayed by his grave site. She was a big girl. The earth moved when she ran and, far from being a purportedly 'threatening' breed, she didn't see people off our property: let me give you a guided tour.

    She, unlike the others, didn't get a coffin. She was too big. The ground was so hard, it had to be drilled for her burial, and she was ungraciously tipped from a wheelbarrow: Sorry, Darling. It was funny - but she died in my arms. I lay on the ground beside her. She was too big to be a lapdog.

    Nothing -nothing - not even death, can take away the memories of your darling. Hold on to those...
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    How are you, Damned?

    Silly question: in pain and grieving.

    Anywhere lovely for the ashes?

    Remember the love. Remember the fun times. I remember 'Ears Blow In the Wind' (No. 2 in the file), and how No. 1 sat and stayed by his grave site. She was a big girl. The earth moved when she ran and, far from being a purportedly 'threatening' breed, she didn't see people off our property: let me give you a guided tour.

    She, unlike the others, didn't get a coffin. She was too big. The ground was so hard, it had to be drilled for her burial, and she was ungraciously tipped from a wheelbarrow: Sorry, Darling. It was funny - but she died in my arms. I lay on the ground beside her. She was too big to be a lapdog.

    Nothing -nothing - not even death, can take away the memories of your darling. Hold on to those...
    Not too bad thanks ,yes still missing her like crazy yes , we haven't got Ashes back yet my Mrs
    Went to work today and had Sashas collar in her pocket all day
    At work ,.though she was her Dog
    She found her aged 6 weeks ,.and was there right at end too , tho.i work nights so I saw her during the day ,.for last 2 years since 1st lockdown I took her & Emmie on their daily walks across the field before that took them both out
    Too but we got portraits on. Will I've got Cup & key ring done so we got all our memories & mementoes of her too
  • Samantha_IsaacsSamantha_Isaacs Posts: 191,098
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    its a difficult decision to make
  • Natalie1Natalie1 Posts: 80
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    So sorry

    We had to do the same last april , it's not easy
  • december1984december1984 Posts: 1,095
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    Apologies for bumping this thread.

    My friends who I live with had to have their beloved Chug, George, put to sleep yesterday.

    It was absolutely for the best as he was in pain and lost the feeling in his back legs but I cannot believe how hard it's hit us all.
  • Seamus SweeneySeamus Sweeney Posts: 3,997
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    I'm utterly devastated and bereft.

    Little Jakey was my only family and friend - as a recluse and hermit, that changed out of fear and desperate worry in the last several weeks. Jakey was with me since 8 weeks old - born 25th Feb 2010.

    On Friday, one week before his 13th birthday I had to make that call :'(

    He had since Christmas slowed down rapidly, and his poor little body was no longer able to pass poo..even with various tried medications, laxative, flushing out, antibiotics, scans, x-rays, blood work...and honestly more, whereby my mind just froze and lost track with.

    Vets4Pets were atrocious. They just kept trying to get me to come back, and 'try' another..and another..option, because the hundreds of pounds were racking up into thousands of pounds.

    I would have willingly lost everything *IF* they were actually onto something and trying to help him.

    They were not though. They were matter of fact like check out staff in a supermarket, saying I should come back if 'the problem persisted' before quickly grabbing my card details each time. Neither vets nor staff seemed remotely interested in either his distress, or my impossible to hide worry.

    Instead it was for me to act without guidance from supposed professionals who were raking in money, and doing nothing whatsoever to help him, or suggest it was perhaps time to switch off his little light.

    I know the sad smell of death - in both animals and humans from my life, and so on Friday night had my cleaner/occasional helper, ferry me and Jake to Vets Now - the Emergency Out Of Hours practice - in Radford after 11 pm.

    The first vet with a conscience, was sadly the last vet that Jakey ever saw. Whilst remaining guarded in her opinion - she had full access via the system connecting Jake to his records with Vets4Pets, and the preceding appointments/treatments/scans etc. She rather tactfully displayed a mix of anger and clearly unhappy that it was this long, and that I had had to rightly determine for myself that his quality of life was no longer acceptable.

    That young vet was the epitome of upset, biting her lip wanting to say more - whilst assuring me I had made the right call.

    I was terrified. I sat on the floor, as he had a canula placed into his leg. Then held his head, as she administered two doses of yellow liquid, and holding his beautiful little face as he just quietly left me :'(

    I am still crying like a baby. Seeing my little friend, who was cheeky, paternal to me when he saw me upset, like a son when tired needing his own reassurance and comfort.

    I was never married or had kids..but Jake was my absolute world, and his larger than life nature was loved by everyone. Neighbours and people in the local community, knew his name and heaped attention on him

    ...*crying..I can't help it* ...They didn't know my name, and I was FINE with that..being known as the "guy who has Jake.." that suited us both perfectly.

    Throwing away his old toys was as much as I could do yesterday. His bed is still laid out, and I cannot yet get myself to lift it up one last time, and to see the empty floor where it has laid through his life :-(((

    Jakey was also a mini-star here during Covid outbreak, with lots of stories and his cheeky photos being used to distract any interested in reading in the Covid mega-thread. For a time he was indeed a Little DS forum mascot through those earliest darkest of days, and received much love here.

    The house without him here, or close by, feels utterly empty and alien to me.

    My thoughts go out to all of you who have lost a cherished and much loved sweet loyal little friend..whether dog, cat, any animal or indeed loved person.

    One last mini collage of Jake - who had so many nicknames..most frequent was "Jakey Carter Squashed 'Bomato' Brain'.. <3

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  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    Speechless here - pm on way, if that's okay?
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    Speechless here - pm on way, if that's okay?

    Thank you so very very much, I mean it from the bottom of my heart. Your PM words were really beautiful, eloquent and so vey kind. I apologise for being hideously drunk right now, but it will be a pleasure to spend time writing and talking back. You also are going through things yourself and likewise my thoughts and heart to you also in abundance. I will write to you when sober, or semi sober at least, and shall be pleased immeasurably to do so. I know - I type somewhat sober to read, but I am so drunk, even by my own idiotic standards.

    You also take care of yourself OK, and I will write to you back through the PM.

    Good Night and Lots of Love and Truely Grateful Wishes and Thoughts

    Pete XXX
  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    Forgot to say:

    Lovely pictures of the Silly Billy!

    Look forward to hearing from you - whenever you are ready.

    xxx
  • Seamus SweeneySeamus Sweeney Posts: 3,997
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    edited 21/03/23 - 13:18 #22
    When losing Jake, nothing else in the world mattered to me.

    I never thought of the pet insurance, who I had been with for years - but eventually contacted - a firm called Vetsure, who I had paid every year.

    Not only did they immediately imburse me with the costs, minus policy excess - my vets ( Vets4Pets ) did all the paperwork, and sent it to them. Then I received those fees back in my account, and a week later his full years insurance cover that I had just paid for - over a grand.

    It was appreciated..**BUT** what mattered, was that they called and kept in touch 3 times afterwards.

    They also sent a card signed by their entire team, and a small token packet of ashes..whilst not Jake..but for his life, and for me to spread.

    Then best of all, they put a memorial page up for Jake xx

    I chose Vetsure to cover Jake when he was a young pup,and stuck with them. If ever debating an insurance company..?

    These people are all animal lovers, and at no time when they called me afterwards were they interested in money, or touting for business. They just talked to me, and have left the door open if I ever want to talk again.

    This is the tribute they posted for Jake. They also posted it on their Facebook and Instagram accounts - social media, which I briefly for a week or so joined to thank them.

    https://vetsure.com/in-loving-memory-of-jake/
  • Ella NutElla Nut Posts: 8,891
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    Just to say, I understand completely and am very very sorry for your loss. Jake(y), was very handsome indeed. It truly is one of the hardest things. I too had nicknames for my pets. Probably none as flamboyant and funny as yours. Prince was "Principaaaality" or "Princey-paws" to name the two I can recall right now, and he answered to all the variations. Gone in 1992.
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    Thanks Ella

    I loved the name 'Principaaaality' and obviously much cherished by you, and still keenly remembered..whether it was last month for me, or 1992 for Prince, they leave a huge indelible lifelong mark in our hearts and memories. After all they were our family, and yes we can and do love them every bit as much as our closest human loved ones - especially when they are the only family you have had for so many years.

    I'm still at the stage where when distracted, I momentarily look around expecting his goofy smile to be looking back up at me from his many 'adopted beds' in every part of the sitting room or bedroom. He liked to be unpredictable, so I had to mind my footing if getting up just to go to the kitchen, or the loo, or anyplace - and still inadvertently looking down so as to avoid 'kicking' (accidentally !!) the weird fractious toothy furball he was.

    I think knowing that they knew they were loved in life, and had us clumsy goofballs there for them, is the best gift and overriding memory to hold onto.

    ..p.s. I did 'kick' Jake a few times :-s He was never perturbed, just a surprised look up at me, and realised it was his clumsy arsed Dad not seeing him..given his ninja like ability to curl up for a snooze in doorways, under the sofa or bed, behind me in the kitchen when cooking, outside the toilet....and so on.

    He was always smilingly indifferent, whilst I babbled a thousand 'guilty' apologies...lol. Dogs are smart though - they know the difference between a clumsy loving oaf owner, and someone who is mean - and he was always ready when 'disturbed' to grab a toy, and have an elongated fight with me. I swear he picked his spots on purpose just for this very reason !!

    No doubt Prince had his own little Puppy-Like mischief antics to keep you on your toes I'm guessing :-) xxx
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  • MeMeMeMeow!MeMeMeMeow! Posts: 311
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    Good to see you here, Seamus.

    What a beautiful tribute made to Jake, and it must have brought some warmth and comfort to you. It would have been nice could you have shared 'his' bottle with me, which is still sitting (empty) on my desk, awaiting instructions from 'Dad'.

    Do you have any photos of him as a puppy? Did he have his mohawk even then?

    J x
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    To J.

    The bottle will be as ever Tescos Scotch. What it lacks in connoisseur panache, it more than makes up for in delightful affordable taste.

    I do have a Jakey timelime, from no mohawk, to full on Lion King..as promised.

    This was him aged 8 weeks old to the day - his first day with me. And he bawled his eyes out the entire afternoon, evening and night.

    Little wonder - I had just 'stolen' him from his Mum :#

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    A lithe 3 year old, working out that I was Clouseau, whilst he was Cato and would always get the better of me.

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    Aged 8, dropping me a hint that there was a problem. There was. He had cancer on his nose..

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    Aged 8. Cancer ? What Cancer..? Recovered just fine, but bloated out a bit, never to be lost. One tough little cookie !!

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    Aged 9. Looking into my soul.

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    Aged 10. If It works for Dad...

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    Later the same night aged 10. Lighweight..!!

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    Aged 10. The morning after - we all been there !

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    Aged 10 and one day later finally admitting defeat for once

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    And finally aged 12. Still grinning but you can see life is taking it's toll

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    And so there you have it. The evolution from a bald head scratcher, to a furry lump of lunacy who never understood the meaning of the word 'quit'..!!

    ** Should be noted, that of course Jake never ever was given beer/alcohol - he just gave me the magical shots to create the story..Flipping Cato like I said !!

















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