'They Left Me': Women Dragged for Pretending Not to Know Friend at Bar

Members of a popular internet forum were quick to defend one college student who detailed his awkward experience at a popular bar.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/warmhotwine (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said he was at the bar with two friends when, much to his confusion, the pair suddenly acted like they didn't know who he was.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for leaving my friends at the bar when they pretended not to know me?" the post has received nearly 12,000 votes and 1,600 comments in the last eight hours.

Writing that he met up with the pair as a final goodbye before summer vacation, the original poster said he planned on giving the women a ride home and initially refrained from drinking any alcohol.

However, following a trip to the restroom, the original poster said the dynamics of the situation changed dramatically.

"I go wait in line to p**s and when I get back, they're there with [three] guys," OP wrote. "I make [my] way back to the table [and one] of the guys asks if he can help me."

"I tell him the girls they're talking to are my friends," OP continued. "They look at my friends and they say they don't know me."

"It just becomes awkward as I don't know what to do and one of the guys says I should just leave. I figured the best thing to do was just walk away," OP added. "I decided that I'm drinking since I have nothing better to do with myself."

After removing himself from the uncomfortable situation, the original poster said he received an apology text from one of his friends, informing him that the pair wanted to hang out with the new guys and that they would probably leave if he came back to the table.

So instead of meeting back up with the friends he came to see, the original poster said he had a few drinks and headed home, much to the dismay of both women.

"Eventually after I'm a little messed up I decided I'm going home," OP wrote. "I get myself an Uber and go home and go to sleep."

"I wake up in the morning to a bunch of texts from them. They asked where I went, if I left, wanted me to come back, saying that they couldn't get the guys to leave, and then that they couldn't get home [with] a ride from me," OP continued.

"They said they ordered an Uber but were pissed at me," OP added. "They said that you don't just leave your girl friends with a bunch of random guys. I said that they left me for said random guys first."

Bar etiquette is an often-discussed and hotly-debated topic, both on and off the internet.

From catching a bartender's attention to dealing with an ill-tempered bouncer, there is an unspoken set of rules that most bar frequenters abide by—or try their best to abide by. While written rules and regulations vary from establishment to establishment, this sort-of code is the common thread that links so many bars together.

But at college bars, all bets are off. Alcohol flows more freely, written rules are often seen as mere suggestions and drama waits around every corner.

Recently, Newsweek has reported on multiple Reddit threads including tales of bar misfortunes, including one similar to the original poster's, in which one college student was abandoned by two friends and left to pay an enormous bar tab.

In that case, Redditors called out the so-called friends and questioned the shallow motives behind such an insulting act. In the case of the original poster, the response from Redditors was nearly the same.

"[Not the a**hole]," Redditor u/a1ham wrote in the post's top comment, which has received more than 20,000 votes. "[What the f**k?]

"They said they don't know you? Oh heck no," they continued. "If it were me, the 'I don't know you' would become VERY true."

Redditor u/Justis29, whose response has received more than 7,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.

"Drop them. They have the audacity to pretend you're a creep in a bar and then text you later mad that you bailed?" they commented. "Wow."

"They ditched you first, so you left, and then they had the audacity to be like 'why didn't you stay all by yourself until we were dong talking to these guys after we were so rude to you?'" Redditor u/detectivesappho chimed in.

In a pair of separate comments, Redditors u/BrainyBorgB**tch and u/murphy2345678 simplified the situation into a single sentence.

"These aren't friends, they're users," u/BrainyBorgB**tch wrote, receiving more than 1,600 votes.

"They were using you for a ride," u/murphy2345678 added, receiving more than 1,400.