'Go to Her Second': Internet Backs Woman's Refusal To Attend Sister's Last-Minute Wedding

The internet has taken the side of a woman who refuses to cancel her throughly planned vacation to go to her sister's last-minute wedding.

Reddit user u/TLupusWarrior took to the popular r/AmITheA**hole forum to share her side of the story in a post that now has over 7,000 upvotes and hundreds of comments.

The Redditor began her story by explaining that, in October 2021, she and her boyfriend planned their first vacation together and they're excited about it. During that time, her sister found a place in the Islamic culture, which included a new relationship.

"Around December she got in a relationship with a guy (26 m) that is also in this believe system. Last week my mom told me they are getting married and want to do it before April because then the Ramadan begins," she said.

According to research done by the U.S. Census Bureau, in 2021, the median age for a man to get married is about 30 years old. For women, the approximate age is 28.

When speaking to her mother, the woman's sister said the wedding would take place during the Reddit user's vacation. The soon-to-be married couple wanted to tie the knot before Ramadan began.

"I immediately told my mom I would not attend the wedding and will not be cancelling or rescheduling this vacation," she wrote. "My mom told me she under but knowing my sister she will make a big deal out of this."

Iu/TLupusWarrior, replied to one of the comments with an update for everyone wondering what happened next. She explained that her sister agreed to Face Time her during the ceremony, but she might not have her phone on her the entire day.

The Reddit community wrote their thoughts in the comment section about how she was not in the wrong for keeping her pre-scheduled plans.

"Nta this is exactly why you don't plan sudden weddings this is always a risk. Enjoy your vacation," u/Public-Inflation-665 commented, which received over 10k upvotes.

"Not at all-she is meeting and marrying a guy within a few months. Go to her second wedding," u/Jensooverstupid said.

u/Pikachu_Princess90 chimed in saying, "Keep your plans and do not feel bad about not attending. You can't be expected to drop your life for someone else. Your sister should understand, especially if she was aware of this vacation."

"NTA. This is the risk you take when you have any major event without any lead time for the people you wish to invite," u/bamf1701 wrote. "It's actually kind of selfish to expect people to drop everything to attend just because you suddenly decided to have an important life event that it was possible to have later. If they are determined to get married now, they would probably do better having the marriage now and have the celebration (the reception or equivalent) later so that guests can better schedule for it."