'She Needed to Be Checked': Internet Backs Wife Who Confronted Husband's Female Friend

The internet has come to the defense of a woman who claimed that she recently confronted her husband's female friend, Sarah.

Posting to Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum on Thursday under the username u/OopsNoRing, the Redditor explained that Sarah likes to compete with her over "how close" she is to the Redditor's husband and "how well she knows him."

Already, the post received more than 17,000 upvotes and over 1,700 comments.

At the beginning of her post, the Redditor said that she and her husband recently hung out with Sarah and a few of his other friends.

"My husband and I eloped a few weeks ago and this was the first time most were seeing us since," she wrote.

Everyone congratulated the couple on their nuptials, save for Sarah, who allegedly approached the Redditor and her husband to say how "disappointed" she was that she hadn't been invited to the ceremony.

"[My husband] told her nobody except our parents knew, nobody was invited, and we don't have our professional photos back," the Redditor recalled. But Sarah wouldn't hear it.

Sarah burst into tears and told the Redditor's husband that their friendship "needed some serious TLC to recover."

This comment "triggered" the Redditor, so she looked at Sarah and said: "He might be your best friend, but you're not his, and this was between ME and HIM, you were not even a consideration."

Psychologist QuaVaundra Perry told Vice that there are two "major signs" it's time for a person to talk to their partner about their "relationship with one specific friend."

"If you're never invited to hang out with them, that's pretty concerning. It's like, 'If it's just platonic, at least give me an invitation! I may not be interested in the thing that you guys are bonding around, but at least give me the opportunity to say no,'" she said.

She added that it's important to assess how much "emotional support" each person gives the other.

"If you find your partner frequently consults their friend or vents to them about their feelings, especially instead of venting to you, and extra especially if they're venting about your relationship, that's worth having a [blunt but non-accusatory] conversation about," Vice said.

In the post's comments section, the Redditor shared that her husband only sees Sarah in group settings. However, this didn't deter commenters from supporting the Redditor's decision to confront Sarah.

"NTA [not the a**hole]—she stepped over the line with her sobbing and demands PUBLICALLY and she needs TLC? She's got a whole relationship in her head that may or may not exist—and your husband needs to draw that line in the sand," wrote u/Ok-Study-5917.

"NTA. She was trying to make your marriage about her and her feelings," said u/TheUtopianCat.

"NTA & I wish you could see how hard my eyes rolled reading this post. Talk about no boundaries. She's so transparently into your husband it's almost painful," commented u/fargoLEVY13.

Redditor u/One_Saturday_Morning added: "NTA. She needed to be checked."