Ten Things Your Therapists Want You To Know 

Seeking professional help for a substance use disorder or mental health disorder can be daunting at first.
• Will you like your therapist?
• What if the treatment doesn’t work?
• How will it feel about divulging your darkest moments to a stranger?

These are common thoughts that many of us go through when we are first entering therapy. Sharing intimate details about your life and your deepest darkest secret with a stranger can be daunting. The fear of facing a therapist may be one of the roadblocks to seeking treatment. However, therapists are meant to guide you and help you overcome your addiction, and work through any mental health disorders. Therapists are on your side, and they want you to get better.

They can only help you if you want help

Finding a therapist and showing up for the first session is a great step in the right direction; however, it is up to you to put in the work. You have to want to get better, which means you will have to open up about your addiction or mental health. You have to involve yourself in the therapy process actively.

They know when clients are using drugs

Relapse can happen during recovery. However, it is crucial to e honest if you relapse or start to have urges to use again. Most therapists can usually tell if you have relapsed or if you are lying about using drugs or alcohol. It is always important to be open and honest about your substance abuse, even if you currently are not in recovery.

Confidentiality is everything

Therapists, by law, are required to keep everything you talk about confidential. This means they will not talk about you to their friends or family. Everything you discuss stays within the walls of the therapy room. The only times a therapist will break confidentiality is if you are a danger to yourself or others.

No matter what you tell them, they have probably heard it before

Therapists deal with a broad spectrum of mental health and addiction disorders, ranging from mild to severe. Therefore, your dark secrets, past behaviors, and current state should not shock your therapist. Experienced therapists have seen it all. With that said, it is important to seek out a therapist who is trained in specific therapy modalities that treat your disorder. For example, if you have a history of trauma, look for a therapist who has a background in different types of trauma therapy.

They are not there to agree with you

Your therapist is there to listen and guide you. However, they are not there to be your friend. If you are searching for positive reinforcement and a therapist who will listen and say “yes” to you, then you may be disappointed. Your therapist may not agree with your behaviors, thought patterns, and habits. Still, they will work with you to develop healthy coping skills and uncover any underlying triggers that are feeding your addiction.

The right fit is crucial

It is important to find a therapist with who you feel comfortable and who you can relate. This may take some trial and error but finding a good fit is imperative for your recovery journey. Researching therapists and sitting down for a free consultation can be a good option to see if you think they will be a good fit. Therapists understand how important it is for their clients to feel comfortable, and therefore they are not offended if you do not think your therapist is the best fit. Many therapists will refer you to another therapist who may be a better fit for you.

They may not have all the answers

Therapists are trained to guide you and help you develop positive coping skills. They have a lot of experience and education in mental health and addiction; however, they may not answer every one of your questions. They may not be able to answer why you endured such extreme trauma in your past or why you continue to have negative thinking patterns despite your successful recovery process. Although it is important to have high expectations from your therapist, keep in mind that they do not know everything.

Going to therapy does not mean you are broken

The stigma associated with therapy is becoming less and less; however, many still associate therapy with “crazy” or “unstable.” This misconception can be a barrier to treatment. Mental health and substance use disorders are true conditions that can happen to anyone, and therapy is an essential component to treatment. Many individuals do not struggle with mental health or substance use disorders and go to therapy to resolve relationship issues or personal dilemmas. Attending therapy is a healthy and cathartic way to become a better individual.

You may feel worse before you feel better

Talking about buried feelings, past traumatic experiences, and identifying unknown triggers can be painful at first. Talking about these things can bring up negative emotions that may be hurtful. However, therapy is meant to help you build skills and confidence to overcome these negative thoughts and experiences. Although talking about your problems may be painful at first, you will begin to feel better within time.

They will not tell you what to do

Therapists are meant to listen and help you uncover deep triggers and patterns of behavior. They also can teach you healthy coping skills and techniques to deal with conflicts that arise in the future. Therapists want to help you realize that you have the power to choose how you feel and to control your actions. It is not their responsibility to make choices for you.

Previously written and published on AKUA Mind and Body