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Woman praised on TikTok for confronting ‘gaslighting’ man who kept touching her in bar

Indy100
Indy100
 2021-07-28
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TikTok user Calla refused to ignore the man’s invasion of her personal space (@haleymcquinn/TikTok)

A woman has been praised for highlighting “gaslighting” behaviour after she confronted a man who repeatedly invaded her personal space.

A video of the pair was shared to TikTok, showing the man with his chair uncomfortably close to hers as she sits with a friend in a bar.

The woman, tagged as @callalatrice (Calla), can be seen shooting him a dirty look as he stands directly behind her.

She then recoils as his arm brushes along her back, prompting him to cry mockingly: “Oh, s***! I touched her again!”

The video then cuts to him with his hand now placed on Calla’s chair as he speaks to her friend.

When Calla confronts him again (her comments are inaudible at this point), he insists that he’s talking to her pal, not her.

However, the friend then points out that he was talking to her about Calla.

The latter then tells the man furiously: “You were talking to her about me and talking about my trauma because, yes, for the last f***ing 30 years of my life [men] don’t know how to keep space.

“They touch you inappropriately, they talk to you inappropriately, and they be [sic] in your motherf***ing space inappropriately.”

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The man kept acting as though he was doing nothing wrong – Calla disagreed (@haleymcquinn_/TikTok)

The clip, posted by Calla’s friend Haley Mcquinn (@haleymcquinn_) and captioned “normalise checking men”, racked up more than 1.1 million views and 172,000 likes on the platform in just one day, as fellow TikTokers praised her response.

“I cannot stand people that act like him! ‘I don’t have an issue with me getting in YOUR personal space, you should relax’,” wrote one user.

“No boundaries,” agreed another.

“Triggered. When they gaslight you and try to make you feel like you’re overreacting for normally reacting to their disrespect,” commented a third.

While a fourth asked: “Why is he acting like the victim?”

A fifth honed in on some bystanders in the background, saying: “I’m also upset [at] the two other guys that can hear and see him harassing these two ladies and do nothing. Y’all [are] just as bad.”

Others preempted an opposing argument, with one writing: “Men will STILL think he was just playing and joking.”

Another said: “I just know someone out there thinks she’s dramatic. It’s called respecting personal space and education.”

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Calla was widely praised for her response to the stranger’s inappropriate behaviour (callalatrice/TikTok)

Meanwhile, Calla responded by sharing the same video but with her photo overlaid. She also added the caption “so obtuse… obviously can’t read facial expressions or body language.”

Her version was met with a similar response, with viewers sending her “much respect” and one commenting: “Channeling your energy the next time this happens.”

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World Without End
07-28

To you people who want to make this a race issue. NO IT'S A SEX ISSUE. MEN SHOULD NOT TOUCH A WOMAN WITHOUT HER PERMISSION. THERE WAS A TIME THAT BOY WETE RAISED TO BE RESPECTFUL AND HONORABLE. 💩JUST BECAUSE WOMEN WANTED A LITTLE INDEPENDENCE DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN ACT LIKE YOU DONT HAVE TO BE A GENTLEMAN. THERE WAS NOTHING IN THIS WOMAN'S SPEECH, DRESS, OR ACTIONS THAT ENCOURAGED THIS MAN'S BEHAVIOR.

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waya unilihi
07-28

it's called stalking disguised as a social interaction....the ladies were at designated bar chairs...he MOVED his chair behind hers in an aisle intended for access to other areas...he blocked other patrons movements and thought he was special enough to do so because his horniness had priority over others space...he violated her space and others...his chair belonged at the table he removed it from....each occupied chair is equal to about $20-30 for the wait staff...he didn't have a drink nor a sandwich in his hand....he should have approached her with proper introduction, got rejected, and moved on but his macho arrogance dictated being a noticeable jersey who didn't give a rap because it's ALL about him.

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Mel Johnson
07-28

I wouldn’t give two bird shits about what color he is… how about just get away from her and maintain a safe distance!

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