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'My uncle let slip an old rumour when drinking and it tore our family apart'

Daily Mirror
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A woman who decided to investigate the backstory of a 'joke' her uncle made at a birthday meal unexpectedly uncovered a deep-rooted family secret - and now she is torn on whether or not to share her findings.

She says that she had gone out for dinner to celebrate her uncle's birthday, explaining that the pair have always been close as they are only a year apart in age and even attended the same school.

The pair love to make fun of one another, and the woman said that whenever she is winning in an argument, he will always throw out the lighthearted line of 'Yeah, well I'm your uncle so have some respect'.

During the birthday celebrations, they were both having a few drinks when her uncle joked about a "family rumour" that her mum isn't really her granddad's daughter.

"I hadn't heard that one and we both have a good laugh over how ridiculous that is," she said.
The pair had no idea there was truth behind the rumour (stock image) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

"We had moved on to other subjects when I remembered that he and I had both used 23andMe to get our DNA analysed. 'Let's connect, this is going to be hilarious' I said.

"So we did, and in all of 5 minutes everyone stopped laughing as the results came up that we share exactly zero DNA."

She said they had always believed that her mum was from her granddad's first marriage, and her uncle was from his second, and that they shared the same dad - but they aren't blood related at all.

After processing the results during her 'uncle's' birthday meal, she said: "He got very emotional and said I ruined his birthday.

"Now we need to decide if and how to tell my 80 year old grandpa that his oldest daughter has a different biological father and to tell my mother her dad isn't her biodad."

After turning to Reddit for advice, one person commented to say: "Don’t do anything. My biological family hate each other, multiple generations of us. Enjoy your family that gets along. Blood means nothing."

A man, who said he himself is a granddad, advised: "Don’t tell grandpa. It will only hurt him. He will still see you as his anyways. What matters is who raised you… trust me."

Some speculated that it's likely the granddad already knows, and another agreed that he shouldn't be told either way, adding: "I can't see any reason why you would want to tell your grandfather at this point if it is only going to hurt him and change absolutely nothing other than the hurt.

"As for your mother, it may be something she would need to know, especially if there is a health issue."

What do you think they should do? Let us know in the comments.

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Rebecca Swartz

I would not tell them. After all this time leave it alone. Too many old people to get hurt and like they said, they would still look at you as family.

Justine Drake Nate Jackson

if your uncle joked about it ,it seems to me that at some point grandpa sat down with him or he overheard him say something like I raised her(your mom) as if she was my own so she is my kid. perhaps he was telling his new wife I don't know but that joke came from somewhere .it seems obvious your uncle already knew hense him blaming u 4 ruining his birthday when it was him that brought it up, had he not turned and said u ruined it making it look like it was your fault every one would have said to him why did u tell her what have u done. it was his way of getting it out without getting in trouble. now as for telling your grandpa as I said I believe he knows but it is something he never wanted your mom to know so I wouldn't but as for your mom just imagine her finding out and also knowing u did not tell her. I also believe it's should all be her decision so I say yeah it will hurt her but not telling her and her finding out which I guarantee she will will be much worse. so tell mom.

Gloria Wadsworth

If 85% of married people who had three or more children were to take the DNA test , they will probably find that one of the children would not be the father’s child. Let it go. Granddad may know the truth. Don’t open up old wounds. If your mom want to look into this, let her do so. Let Granddad be happy with your mom being his daughter!


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