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Daily Mirror
Daily Mirror
 2021-07-06
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Sarah Shellenberger with her late husband Scott (Image: Sarah Shellenberger / SWNS)

A widow who gave birth to her late husband's baby 14 months after his death using frozen embryos says her new son has “healed her heart”.

Sarah Shellenberger, 40, described eight-week-old Hayes as her “medicine” after she lost her husband Scott, 41, to a heart attack last February.

She now hopes to have another baby using the same process with their second and last viable embryo.

The teacher, who is from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, said: “Holding Hayes has been such good medicine for me and he has healed my heart in a lot of ways.”

Sarah and Scott, a science professor, had just completed an embryo fertilisation at a Barbados fertility clinic when Scott died suddenly while teaching a class at college.

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Sarah with baby Hayes (Image: Sarah Shellenberge / SWNS)

She was convinced Scott would have wanted her to give birth to the baby and she fell pregnant with Hayes last August, six months after Scott’s death.

Sarah said: “In our eyes, we have these two embryos that are already created and they are our children.

“To me, there was no other option. They are our kids.

“I had to try to get pregnant and bring our children into this world.”

Sarah and Scott first met while studying at Southern Nazarene University but only began dating when Scott contacted Sarah on Facebook in 2017.

It was a whirlwind romance with the pair getting engaged four months after reuniting in person and marrying in September 2018.

They immediately began trying for children.

“Both of us really wanted at least three kids and we were really excited to start our family,” Sarah said.

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Sarah (with her mum) described eight-week-old Hayes as her “medicine” (Image: Sarah Shellenberge / SWNS)

But they struggled to conceive and finally their doctor told them that their only hope of becoming parents was with IVF.

Because of the high cost for IVF in the States, the couple went to the Barbados Fertility Center for the egg retrieval.

The first retrieval was in December 2019.

“For the first round, we ended up getting one genetically normal embryo and that turned out to be Hayes,” Sarah said.

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Sarah and Scott had struggled to conceive (Image: Sarah Shellenberge / SWNS)

“We found out just before Christmas that he was a boy.

“Scott and I were able to pick out names before he died and that was really meaningful.

“We decided to go back in February for another retrieval while I still had as many eggs as possible.”

Scott was unable to accompany Sarah on the trip because he had limited holiday time so her mother Sherry, 64, went with her.

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Baby Hayes is now eight weeks old (Image: Sarah Shellenberger / SWNS)

Scott suffered a fatal heart attack as Sarah and Sherry flew back to Oklahoma, via Toronto.

“When I landed in Toronto and I finally connected to the WiFi my phone was going crazy,” Sarah said.

“I had all these text messages coming through - the first one I saw was from one of Scott’s co-workers telling me that they were all gathered here praying for Scott.

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Scott donated his liver and kidneys, saving the lives of three people (Image: Sarah Shellenberge / SWNS)

“I called his mom and she told me that he had had a heart attack and been moved to the ICU and he had not regained consciousness.”

But Sarah couldn’t believe that her young and healthy husband could possibly die of a heart attack.

“I was upset and concerned but I really didn’t think he would die,” she said.

“He was so healthy, fit and young.”

She arrived at the hospital and saw Scott hooked up to a life support machine.

A neurologist told her that her husband was brain dead.

“I couldn’t believe it.

“There are no words to describe that feeling.

“I decided I wanted to donate his organs so I filled out all the paperwork.

“On Friday, February 21 I had to go and say goodbye to him.

“That was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”

Scott donated his liver and kidneys, saving the lives of three people.

A week after his funeral, the clinic told Sarah that she had one more viable embryo.

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Sarah gave birth to Hayes on May 3 with her mum by her side (Image: Sarah Shellenberge / SWNS)

“I was so hopeful that we had at least one more from the second round because I knew that was the last chance to have a child with my husband.

“It was our biggest dream - Scott wanted to be a dad.”

Sarah and Scott had completed paperwork before starting the embryo process, including what would happen to the embryos if a spouse passed away.

“We had said we wanted the remaining spouse to do what they wanted with the embryo.”

In August Sarah went to Barbados for the embryo transfer. A week later, she found out she was pregnant.

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Sarah said it is painful to know Scott will never meet his baby son (Image: Sarah Shellenberge / SWNS)

She shared her story on social media and soon had messages of support from people around the world.

“I was so moved by so many strangers following my story - people in Italy and France and South America and Canada were praying for me and my embryo.

“I felt so supported.”

But she also feared losing the baby after the loss of Scott.

Sarah gave birth to Hayes on May 3 with her mum by her side.

Although she was overjoyed to hold Hayes in her arms, she said it is painful to know Scott will never meet his baby son.

“It is bittersweet because I know that Scott would have been over the moon in love with him and it is hard to experience these things without him."

She added: “I absolutely see Scott in him. It feels like things are starting to look brighter and that maybe my life isn’t over and I have a purpose.”

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tina radford
07-07

I'm sure he's looking down with a huge smile, and what a blessing, they were there for a reason and she carried it threw !! good luck mama wish you lots of blessing!!!!!

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Kathi Pierce
07-09

What a BEAUTIFUL face your baby has - I know your going to be the best MOM ever and this little guy that you brought into this world is because of you and your late husband. He will always be shining down on you every day as you teach your son all about his Dad.

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Danielle-Melique Lindsay
07-09

your so brave and strong sorry for your loss but so glad to know your able to have your babys this is a gift for life that he def would of wanted prayers sent to everyone involved 🙏🙏🙏

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