3 Things You Can Do When You Feel Like Everyone Else Is Doing Better Than You
I’m somebody who likes to categorize everything in life. For example, if you take a look at my pantry, you’ll see the pasta, rice, and such on the bottom shelf.
In the middle, you’ll see granola and various healthy snacks. Accessible — but I do have to stand on my tiptoes to reach for anything. Top shelf? “Naughty” snacks. My favorite dark chocolate-covered pretzels hide there, with my salt and vinegar potato chips. I have to climb the counter to reach those.
The rest of my house is similar to my kitchen, everything is organized, and nothing goes where it doesn’t belong. My life is like that, too; I categorize people, places, emotions, goals, etc.
When it comes to people, I have multiple categories. I have friends that go in my “fun” category, these are the people I like to go out with on Saturday nights, but we don’t really talk much during the week because while I’m grinding, they’re usually at a party.
Then I have my more “serious” friends, who have their 9–5, they make great money, take a vacation 1–2x a year, but we still don’t see exactly see eye to eye.
The final category is pretty empty, but it’s the one I strive to be in. It’s the one where people I aspire to be like are in. It’s the people I look up to, the ones who worked hard for their success and achievements. They made sacrifices; they got up early, they did what others deemed as impossible.
In the last few weeks, I hit a slump. I felt like my business was at a plateau, my energy levels were nonexistent, I was irritable daily. Meanwhile, my friends were going to Vegas, getting promotions, and thriving.
It’s so easy to start a pity party for yourself when you feel like everyone is doing better than you are. However, that pity party won’t get you anywhere.
It’ll just make you feel worst — I know because I had one, and it didn’t help me one bit. Instead, I did the following.
Do an emotional and physical detox.
It’s easy to get caught up in everything. For instance, you go on social media, and you see your good friend Betty going to Vegas in the middle of the week, and you think to yourself, how?
How can Betty afford to take a vacation meanwhile you’ve been working your butt off at home with no break?
You’re envious; you start to feel frustrated that all the work you’re putting in is giving you mild-to-medium results. Meanwhile, Betty is just having the time of her life drinking margaritas on a Tuesday, and spending money left and right.
I felt the exact same way, and after ruminating over these emotions for 24 hours, I decided I needed to get away from it all. My plan was to detach from social media for a few days and take a mini staycation to de-stress.
I took the entire weekend off socials and work, but I plan on eliminating my social media use weekly for mental health purposes. Sometimes we truly don’t realize the negative effects of social media; while it’s a great platform to utilize for inspiration, it can also drain you and leave you feeling empty.
Try to start and finish your day without checking Instagram, and take note of your energy levels and how you feel about yourself. I can guarantee you’ll feel better about yourself.
Remind yourself: You’re in it for the long run.
Take the time to remind yourself that you’ve been investing into yourself and your business all this time; your friends have been wasting time, money, and energy on things that won’t benefit them in the long run.
You’re planting seeds for an abundant harvest; they’re buying produce at the store that will get eaten immediately.
You’re looking at the bigger picture; they’re enjoying temporary satisfaction.
I get jealous when I see people my age doing things I dream of doing after I’m set up for life. I wonder to myself, how can they afford it? How can they take time off?
According to Experian data from the third quarter of 2020, the majority of people are in credit debt. There’s over $756 billion in outstanding credit card debt in the U.S., and approximately 95% of adults have a credit card account open in their name.
People are budgeting vacations that limit them so much, yet they return in more debt than when they started the vacation in the first place.
You’re not like that. You want to set yourself up in the best possible way so you could enjoy life without worrying about taking time off. You won’t have to worry about budgeting. You won’t have to worry about making money. You won’t have to worry about being in debt.
You’re making sacrifices now and setting yourself up for the long run. A few years from now, your friends and the people you currently envy will ask you how you did it.
Your journey is one of a kind.
I don’t know you, I don’t know your goal or aspirations, but ask yourself right now, how many people do you know are striving for the exact same thing as you are?
I’ll bet not very many. You know people who might be striving towards financial freedom — but do you know of anyone striving towards it in the way you are?
Take me, for example. My goal is to become a published author; my genre will be self-help, relationships, and psychological thrillers. I know absolutely nobody who wants to write about those 3 exact things, and that’s what makes me one of a kind.
Maybe you’re interested in writing about dating — and coding because you know Python, but you’re also interested in travel. That makes your journey one of a kind.
So my question to you is this, why are you comparing your one-of-a-kind journey to people who aren’t even in the same lane as you?
Why are you wasting energy comparing yourself to people who don’t want the same things as you do?
I get it. You see your friends or even strangers out there living their best life, and you want to do the same things. Maybe you also want to vacation wherever they’re vacationing, but you don’t know what they did to get to that place.
When it gets down to it, while you might be jealous of Betty for vacationing in Vegas, you wouldn’t be jealous of her if you knew that she had to skip out on work and get into credit debt for a few days of temporary satisfaction.
The next time you start to feel blue, or even a smidgen of envy — remind yourself that your journey is different.
You were built differently from the rest; you have dreams and aspirations you’re willing to make sacrifices for, unlike other people. Failure, plateaus, moments of frustration are all part of the journey.
The next time you look up and wonder why x, y, and z seem to be thriving while you’re waking up at the crack of dawn to work on your business, take some time off. Get off social media, do a reset, give your mind some space to breathe.
You, too, could probably drop everything and go take a vacation, but you don’t because you’re in it for the long run, and you have work to do.
Lastly, remember that your journey is one of a kind, and you might get to your destination quicker than some, but it could also be slower than some, and that’s okay.
You just have to keep pushing and remember who and what you’re doing all of this for.