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How to be Happy In A World Designed to Pull You Down

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Anangsha Alammyan
Anangsha Alammyan
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Saying “no” to yourself when your brain tells you to work harder can be difficult. The conditioning of several years of ‘hustle culture’ might bruise your ego to admit you can’t handle too much work. After all, it’s easy to forget what it’s like to not feel overwhelmed all the time.

Author Mike Fishbein proposes two ways you can draw better boundaries with yourself:

  • Know your priorities. Every time you say “yes” to more work, you’re saying “no” to the other aspects of your life that you value. By taking inventory of your list of priorities, and where work lies on that list, you can make decisions that will help you live a more fulfilling life.
  • Address the underlying issues. Are you working to avoid thinking about your insecurities or shortcomings? Or, do you think you need to have more money in order to be loved or appreciated?

It’s so easy to see when our friends are struggling and assure them they have made progress. But when it comes to ourselves, why are we so harsh and full of self-criticism?

If you read this till the end, consider this as your sign from the Universe that you need to actively practice self-love. No matter how many times you fail or how hard you struggle, you should only congratulate yourself for coming this far and thank your body for allowing so much progress.

Make a promise that you won’t be harsh on yourself, no matter what.

Promise yourself that you’ll start saying “No” when your brain tries to trick you into believing you’re not doing enough.

You have everything you need and you’re exactly where you need to be. Trust that, and cherish the process. Growth is never a straight line, but that doesn’t mean growth has to be painful. You can be successful without being secretly unhappy.