How to Survive a Dating Drought in 2021
It happens to the best of us, no matter how successful, savvy, or sexy. Blame it on career demands, a mandated quarantine, limited social options, or merely time spent recovering from a broken heart.
Before you know it… days, weeks, months, even years go by, and you can’t remember the last time you were in the company of the opposite sex. And, well… you’re feeling a bit parched. Things have gotten so bad, you’re having fantasies about your boss!
Should you approach that cutie at the gym? Try Internet dating? Should you dive right in to things, or gradually get your feet wet again? Would your time be better spent on some soul searching? Or should you just wait for fate?
Well, it all depends...
Desperate times don't always have to call for desperate measures. Hello?
HERE ARE SOME THINGS TO CONSIDER ACCORDINGLY...
- HAVE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE.
Thank your lucky stars that you’re not suffering at the hands of an abusive mate, or enduring a bad marriage that has you feeling trapped.
- UNDERSTAND THAT “THIS TOO SHALL PASS.”
Remember, patience is a virtue.
- TAKE THIS DOWN-TIME TIME TO WORK ON YOUR CAREER OR PERSONAL SELF-DEVELOPMENT.
In doing so, you increase your self-esteem and your future options.
- CONNECT WITH PREVIOUSLY NEGLECTED FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
There's no time like the present.
- LET YOUR FRIENDS KNOW THAT YOU ARE RECEPTIVE TO A LITTLE MATCH-MAKING.
But, definitely give them some guidelines and boundaries to apply.
And here's what the experts have to say:
- According to Iyanla Vanzant, relationship expert and author of In the Meantime, “Never believe that what you do in the meantime, even when it means you have short-lived relationships, is a useless waste of time. Every relationship is the relationship you need at the time. Everything you do in every relationship you have prepares and brings you closer to the grand experience of total, unconditional self-love and love for others.”
- Bonita Bennett, publisher of Being Single Magazine states “Ironically, there are almost as many eligible men feeling equally discouraged, because they have not been able to walk up on Ms. Right. However, when it’s time, God will surely place each man and woman in their respective places, in accordance with His will and plan.”
- “If you refuse to take affirmative action in meeting a lot of people--- and instead, put it in the hands of fate and wait to be discovered--- your mathematical chances of finding people with whom you can become involved obviously diminish.” --- Michael Broder, PH.D.
- Charlotte E. Thompson, M.D. author of Single Solutions advises “Remember that if you are doing something you enjoy while looking, it doesn’t appear that you are “on the prowl” and your chances improve meeting a man with similar interests.”
Remember that just because you’re in a “drought” doesn’t mean that you can’t spend this time "getting your feet wet" having fun in other creative, fun, enriching ways.