Blissful Being Single or In a Relationship?

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Is it better to be single or in a relationship? I cannot answer this because it is a personal choice, and we have different circumstances. I invite you to comment and tell me what your preference is. I will tell you mine at the end, so stick around and buckle up because first, I will present the pros and cons of each.

People in relationships tend to be happier and healthier. However, that is not the case if you are in an abusive or toxic relationship. Single people who have experienced those toxic relationships welcome the calm solitude.

Even the most healthy and happy relationships come with friction and conflict as two people merge and navigate life. However, they can also provide emotional safety and security for each other. A healthy relationship comes with respect, loyalty, honesty, compromise, integrity, appreciation, acceptance, and a commitment to each other through thick and thin.

There are pros and cons to both being single and committing to someone.

Single people tend to have strong connections with friends and family, whereas those in a relationship often spend more time alone.

Let's dive into the pros and cons!

Single Life Pros

• No need to answer anyone
• No drama
• Freedom to do what you want and when you want

Relationship Pros

• A partner and teammate for support and comfort
• You can be yourself
• You gain both a best friend and a lover

Single Life Cons

• Loneliness, no one to share meals with or intimate conversations
• Being the third wheel with friends
• Physical needs are unmet

Relationship Cons

• The person may change or let themselves go
• You have a personal responsibility toward your partner
• You have to make joint decisions
• Your partner comes with friends and family that you are obligated to like and get along with

Final Thoughts

If you are single and enjoying it, good for you! Spending time alone is very healthy, particularly when healing from past wounds. Some say you gain self-awareness by being single. I would challenge that because our partners mirror our greatest and worst qualities, and we learn a lot from them. I have been in several toxic relationships, and although they were brutal, I grew enormously.

Being single allows you to clarify your needs, vision for the future, and personal values.

Ultimately, there is no right or wrong. But, if you choose to be in a relationship, go all in. You can only succeed in a relationship if you are fully committed and devoted to your significant other.

I was married for twenty-one years, have since dated, and have spent time being single. There are benefits to both. But, I believe that fairy tale love does exist, and I want to spend the rest of my life with my partner in crime, laughing and crying together and helping each other through this school of life. What are your thoughts?

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I wish you happiness regardless of your choice to be single or in a relationship. Being happy and enjoying life is what matters most.

Peace & Light,

Libby