I think of the blessings of that required more Joie De Vivre. Love — finding and being in love during this period provided the grounding and connection I needed after 4 years in the Marine Corps. Direction in my life — career, family, settling down — my friends, family, and work relationships required my attention and good judgement. Hope is also an important thing to experience — most of the time, if not all the time. Hope is also important for elevating spirits. Calm emerged in the pre-university years but it was crystalized in the military: finding and maintaining calm. Finally, experiencing challenge is an important necessity; my challenges motivate me to improve, but mostly the challenges I determine, not others.