Q&A: My girl cheated on me, however, she was the "sugar momma" in the side relationship. Was I wrong for fighting dude?
Hey, I'm JT from West Orange. You probably don't get many messages from men, but I have a real question. My family and I are in disagreement on my recent actions involving the infidelity of my girlfriend. Well, my ex-girlfriend because I definitely left her alone. I found out she was cheating through a friend of hers who slipped up and told me she had bought me some cologne and a pair of shoes the previous weekend while they were out shopping. I never received this cologne or the new shoes and when I questioned my girl about it she just sat at the end of the sofa looking lost. Her homegirl skeptical of the situation, respectfully excused herself. I ask my girl to see her phone and this starts an even bigger argument where I'm suddenly being accused of cheating on her and never trusting her. Mind you, to my knowledge I was under the influence I had a faithful woman as I was to her. Not to add the woman was spending my hard-working money as well. After two hours of fighting, I was able to go through her phone where I seen multiple transactions made at department stores, restaurants, and hotel rooms. She was even paying the dude's phone bill and car insurance. Long story short, after finding out who he was I fought him and left her. He pressed assault charges on me and my mother and aunt feel I should have just walked away from the situation. However, my sister is backing me up. Was my full reaction too much or am I justified?