"I'm Stuck Birthing And Raising Two Babies Who Should Have Been Born To Her" — This Unhinged Mom Had 2 More Kids After Her Daughter Chose To Be Childfree
By Alexa Lisitza,
2024-08-16
I won't say it's always a bad sign when a screenshotted Facebook post starts making rounds on Reddit or Twitter, but it's usually not for wholesome reasons. So, when I saw this image of a mom lamenting about her daughter's decision not to have children, I knew I was in for a ride. And I was right.
In the post, which has been shared on Reddit, an anonymous mom wrote: "I'm Gen X, and I have a huge problem with how I am left carrying the weight for millennials."
She continues, "For example. I'm 42 and my daughter is 22. She decided a while ago she does not want any kids. She's actually getting a procedure for sterilization next year."
"But those souls needing to come into our family for ancestral or karmic reasons still need to be born. So I'm stuck birthing and raising two babies who should have been born to her but can't be because she's too selfish to have kids."
"We joke how my 1.5 year old girl — her sibling — is actually hers but she just didn't want to have it. But deep down? It's not a joke. If she wasn't so selfish, I wouldn't have a toddler daughter right now."
As you can imagine, people quickly called out the mom for her patchy logic. First is the judgment she displays over her daughter's personal decision not to have children.
"My daughter, 26, is not having kids. I am happy that she’s happy. She’s healthy, and she enjoys life," user AdditionalReport6400 said, suggesting that parents should be happy when their child acts in a way that will bring joy to their life without causing others harm. "It seems that your Daughter is way smarter than you, the parent. I wish her well, good health, and lifelong happiness."
Whether or not someone wishes to bring children into the world shouldn't be determined by the guilt placed on them by their mother .
"A deluded mother thinks she can force her daughter to bear children and raise them for her entire life because that's what a mother wants. Mother can suck a duck, you don't get to dictate what your children do," user leeingram01 said. "I know this from experience — you're better off without a controlling mother like that. Just, wow. Having kids because her daughter wouldn't have children? So those kids lives ONLY EXIST because of their big sister. Talk about a fecked up family dynamic."
After going viral on Reddit, the post was shared on Twitter — unfortunately now called X — where it received even harsher treatment. People questioned how being childfree is selfish:
They called the mom "weird," with one user writing, "My daughter's 42 and chose not to have children. Uh, no...I never, ever thought about making more babies to 'compensate.'"
And Gen X peers immediately distanced themselves from the mom by making it clear this is not a widely shared stance. "We're like, please don't have kids if you're not flipping ready, even if that's never," this user wrote.
Obviously, there is no justification for this mom having more children and then trying to push them off onto her daughter. But this situation did make me wonder about other childfree people's experiences with their parents. How did they react to the news?
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